Quote from kleinlukaBefore you accuse others of not reading what you're writing make sure you read what others are writing. I clearly said "Yes they will have to adapt but they shouldn't be asked to abandon their core roots as long as they are socially bearable (no violence, no locking people up, etc.)" so no, I'm not ok with it.
The husband living in India obviously doesnt have to adapt to Holland. You just didnt mention if its socially bearable to be sent away to marry a stranger. Isnt that an acceptable thing for you? Because you didnt mention it. Might as well also mention the headscarve because it means you will get punished for not wearing it. Just like converting, going to the beach etc etc.