What's going on with your life?

    Quote from [HP]

    9 hours ago, [HP] said: Yo mapcore, how you all doing?

    My grandpa died in hospital presumably due to the virus or usual negligence, my left neighbors wife got cancer and my right neighbors husband got the virus. A close family friends father has died to the virus as well. It fills me with anger every time I see groups of people without masks.

    My view of this country has pretty much fallen apart over the past few years. People are living paycheck to paycheck and irresponsible corps are getting bailed out for their mismanagement of billions. We now have to choose from two horrendous candidates that had their campaigns funded by a handful of the 0.1%. We have 25% of the world prison population and one of the highest re offending rates. Crime is exponentially higher than similar countries. I can go on for days like this. Every developed country has issues but the US takes it to the next level, thinking it is the best all the while. It seems like it is too late to do anything and we have been falling down pretty much every social progress index since the 90s while disparity grows.

    I need to get out of this nightmare by 25

    I'm very sorry for your grandfather @Interfearance, life is fragile.

    You didn't ask me for advice or opinion, but you do indeed sound like you have a lot of anger pinned up, understandably so. Go mourn your grandfather, go be there for your family, trust me they need you. Go hug your grandmother (I'm sure she's going through a lot right now). I haven't been able to go home in nearly 2 years now, I would give anything right now to be able to hug my grandmother for just 30 seconds, she's in her 80's now and looked after me my whole childhood. We should never take family or loved ones for granted.

    As for this country, I don't necessarily believe it's falling apart, it's just incredibly divided and until regular people regain their ability for listening and to have dialogue, it will never get better. So there's a lot the individual can do still, but to despair or to blame is seldom a viable way for a bright future, quite the contrary. If this year proved anything to us, is that things can always get worse, we could be in Venezuela or NK right now, yet we're sitting on our sofas, in air conditioned rooms blaming the world for everything that happens through our expensive smart phones.

    Growing up, I had the fortune and opportunity of listening to chatter by a lot of old people. They talked about wars, famine, the horror's of fascist and communist governments in mid 20th century Europe and even though I didn't live through it, I'm thankful for this second hand absorption of appreciation and knowledge. My grandfather would say that as a child, he couldn't wait for Christmas because he would always get a new pair of shoes, and my mother would say that as a child she couldn't wait for Christmas because she would always get a chocolate bar. Can we even fathom that nowadays? A life where you only get a pair of shoes a year, or a generation later you're lucky if you get a candy bar per year? Nowadays, many of our struggles is not due to too little, but due to too much. Too much technology exposure, too much information, too much politics, too much hate, too much finger pointing, too much 24 hour news cycle, too much materialism and too little time spent on things that matter or on self betterment. Many people I know haven't seen the sun in months and spend their days refreshing the news, no wonder we're all depressed.

    As you think, you become. We gotta be strong and build a better tomorrow, dont wait for 25.

    Been on my new job since 6 or 7 weeks now. It's faaaaar way more interesting from all I did during 1 year and a half on my previous one. It was a though move as it took a lot of time to change as I had to make another visa but it was for the best.


    You know, you move to another country for some fresh air and because your wife reaaally want to but you just took the first job that comes because you are sick of a year of failed tests and interviews. Then you are in another country, stuck in a job you dislike since the first month because of a closed work permit and 25 000 dollars to reimburse if you leave. The feeling that your career and your skills are not growing, you make friends but, well, even if I like them a lot, I miss my coworkers from Arkane sooo much it hurts.

    Then this fucking COVID and you have to work from home on a game that is not looking good but you do all you can while keeping your baby at home because daycare is closed and your wife, having an important job, can't work at home. It was a harsh and very depressive times but I kept the pain inside because I made my wife very happy and my baby will have a waaaay more interesting childhood than mine, and also because of all the shits that happened this year, it nothing really, some people are having worse, I would have been a fucking crybaby.


    But I had this little question in my mind, did I really made the right decision ?


    Now I'm happy, even if I'm working at home, I'm working with cool people, we talk a lot on discord, the kid is in daycare, we are moving on a bigger condo where I will have an office (won't work anymore in the bedroom, yeah !) even if will will miss the area we are living right now. And I like my job ! It's cool, interesting, not perfect of course, but well paid and I will learn a lot. Well I will learn and do what my previous company promised me when they took me in an interview, those fucking liars !!! (even the job daycare was a lie, seriously !) I"m just happy of all the shit this company has to take now (but I hope good people won't be to much in trouble also). Never again.


    tl;dr :

    My life, after a strange turn, is finally going in the right direction. :)

    I was going to complain here but then I made a mental checklist of how things are going and there is honestly nothing I can reasonably complain about.

    It's my responsibility to fix stuff that bothers me.. so I guess I really can't have a moan? There are things that are out of our control but most really aren't.

    Quote from Buddy

    2 hours ago, Buddy said: I was going to complain here but then I made a mental checklist of how things are going and there is honestly nothing I can reasonably complain about.

    It's my responsibility to fix stuff that bothers me.. so I guess I really can't have a moan? There are things that are out of our control but most really aren't.

    Fuckin A, only this mentality will take us out of this mess, the dichotomy of control.

    Quote from Evert

    1 hour ago, Evert said: Isnt talking about stuff; like moaning also part of dealing with it? Otherwise, whats the point of your post lmao

    Well, to talk about stuff is one thing, to moan is another, amirite?

    Not that I think this is a problem around these parts, unless we're talking about CS xD

    Quote from Buddy

    11 hours ago, Buddy said: I was going to complain here but then I made a mental checklist of how things are going and there is honestly nothing I can reasonably complain about.

    It's my responsibility to fix stuff that bothers me.. so I guess I really can't have a moan? There are things that are out of our control but most really aren't.

    Who am I to say what's right or wrong but you may be depriving yourself from valuable resources by not complaining. It's useful to complain to friends sometimes, you might get a different perspective on what troubles you, some suggestions, or even a pat on the back to give you some energy. (or a hump from behind if your friend is HP).

    A bit unrelated, but the other day the weed was super strong and me and a buddy got into a nice philosophical discussion. He argued that people should do whatever they want as long as they don't harm others. I used to live by that thought, but the more I mature, the more I realize that kind of thinking is what got us into some of the troubles we have today. Sure, you should be free to pursue your dreams and Earthly pleasures, but we also need to develop a stronger sense of duty and responsibility if we are to live better lives, and that means doing things that you don't like sometimes, that benefit the greater good, otherwise we just live a meaningless life chasing after material things and pleasure, never feeling quite content or fulfilled.

    In Starship Troopers to become a citizen (and have the right to vote) you first have to serve your country. Of course in reality, this would mean fighting other people's wars. But it would be awesome if we had some program to get benefits in exchange for public service. For example, clean some streets or beaches, or paint some walls, and get a tax break etc...

    Quote from Minos

    5 hours ago, Minos said: Who am I to say what's right or wrong but you may be depriving yourself from valuable resources by not complaining. It's useful to complain to friends sometimes, you might get a different perspective on what troubles you, some suggestions, or even a pat on the back to give you some energy. (or a hump from behind if your friend is HP).

    A bit unrelated, but the other day the weed was super strong and me and a buddy got into a nice philosophical discussion. He argued that people should do whatever they want as long as they don't harm others. I used to live by that thought, but the more I mature, the more I realize that kind of thinking is what got us into some of the troubles we have today. Sure, you should be free to pursue your dreams and Earthly pleasures, but we also need to develop a stronger sense of duty and responsibility if we are to live better lives, and that means doing things that you don't like sometimes, that benefit the greater good, otherwise we just live a meaningless life chasing after material things and pleasure, never feeling quite content or fulfilled.

    In Starship Troopers to become a citizen (and have the right to vote) you first have to serve your country. Of course in reality, this would mean fighting other people's wars. But it would be awesome if we had some program to get benefits in exchange for public service. For example, clean some streets or beaches, or paint some walls, and get a tax break etc...

    Ahah, if people would have to serve their country before they vote the participation rate would go down to 3% lol

    I wouldn't mind some sort of imbecile filter like a couple extra question on the ballot to verify that you know what you'er voting on, though.

    Quote from st0lve

    On 8/23/2020 at 4:46 AM, st0lve said: Hi internets~

    I'm good these days, even though I lost my job. Healthy, strong and lots of productive pursuits.

    st0lve~

    Didn't you start your own company? Or am I tripping? Still skateboarding?

    A lot of people heres have had some real tough stuff to deal with. So sorry for people who have lost loved ones or, say, have been in the hospital (Klein glad you are recovering from multiple things) as an example.

    By comparison we have had it easy since my wife and I are both employed, but home schooling two elementary school age kids is brutally tough, even with the "improved" distance learning that started this month compared to end of last academic year in Q2.

    Honestly I just come here to read about what's going on with familiar people that I've known (mostly virtually) for up to 15+ years. HOLY HELL mapcore is that old? Where are my reading glasses? Get those teenagers off my lawn! By garrr...it's been a while....

    Quote from Minos

    On 8/24/2020 at 11:50 PM, Minos said: st0lve~

    Didn't you start your own company? Or am I tripping? Still skateboarding?

    I have my own company, but it's almost always been on more of a hobby/side-project basis except for shorter periods of full time focus and/or consultancies. I've been with my last employer for 3 years. I actually got a new job offer yesterday! It's weird to just get job offers without applications or proper interview processes, but it's always been like that for me. Jobs I actually apply for, I typically never hear back from.

    Still skateboarding, but I am missing a few ligaments here and there and I am turning 32 tomorrow, so my body isn't what it used to be even though I am physically fit. I do a mix of skateboarding, boulder, bike and yoga. Anything that keeps me out of a traditional gym.

    I've been working too hard for a few years now, went through some deep burnouts and such, but taking control back a bit. Putting boundaries on work, and investing in a healthier lifestyle -- I realize I don't like living in a city because I don't know what to do when I take a break from work (that is, things that don't involve spending money) and have been picking biking and exercising a bit. The appartement above mine was also not used for the last 3 years but now peeps are moving in and I have to get used to the reality of living in an appartement building (especially since I work late at night to be in sync with the US.)

    Working too much did help me save money so I've been looking at houses for a few weeks but running into walls: houses that were sold in less than 24 hours or while I was on my way to visit them, and since I'm renovating my mom's house I don't quite feel like another year's worth of renovations for the next purchase. When I was starting to think I should wait this housing market rush out (the rate of people looking for homes vs those selling is crazy right now in this part of France), I ran into a cool house close to the coast that ticks all my requirements. It's like a 8 min walk to the beach and close to hiking trails. Was dubious at first because there's no cell-phone coverage at all and shittiest internet, but after poking around the town officials guaranteed optic fiber internet and 4G coverage by end of year. My offer was just accepted I got pretty lucky on it as the estimation was done before confinement so prices didn't rise, and I might be selling my flat super quickly and at a good price because there's a high demand in the area. Peeps built it themselves because the whole family worked in construction, so it's a 2nd-hand. Its layout is weird and its interior is a bit odd for the area (the owners liked the style of mountain homes, with lots of visible wood inside), and I'll tweak the decoration, but I generally really like it.

    Now if only I could see my american girlfriend, we've been kept apart since February...

    Quote from Corwin

    1 hour ago, Corwin said: I've been working too hard for a few years now, went through some deep burnouts and such, but taking control back a bit. Putting boundaries on work, and investing in a healthier lifestyle -- I realize I don't like living in a city because I don't know what to do when I take a break from work (that is, things that don't involve spending money) and have been picking biking and exercising a bit. The appartement above mine was also not used for the last 3 years but now peeps are moving in and I have to get used to the reality of living in an appartement building (especially since I work late at night to be in sync with the US.)

    Working too much did help me save money so I've been looking at houses for a few weeks but running into walls: houses that were sold in less than 24 hours or while I was on my way to visit them, and since I'm renovating my mom's house I don't quite feel like another year's worth of renovations for the next purchase. When I was starting to think I should wait this housing market rush out (the rate of people looking for homes vs those selling is crazy right now in this part of France), I ran into a cool house close to the coast that ticks all my requirements. It's like a 8 min walk to the beach and close to hiking trails. Was dubious at first because there's no cell-phone coverage at all and shittiest internet, but after poking around the town officials guaranteed optic fiber internet and 4G coverage by end of year. My offer was just accepted I got pretty lucky on it as the estimation was done before confinement so prices didn't rise, and I might be selling my flat super quickly and at a good price because there's a high demand in the area. Peeps built it themselves because the whole family worked in construction, so it's a 2nd-hand. Its layout is weird and its interior is a bit odd for the area (the owners liked the style of mountain homes, with lots of visible wood inside), and I'll tweak the decoration, but I generally really like it.

    Now if only I could see my american girlfriend, we've been kept apart since February...

    Aaaaah la Bretagne ❤️ Belle maison et excellent choix de vie ! On croise les doigts pour ta copine, chaud :( PS : yup, french ! ^^

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