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Happy 'Merica day everyone! Amexit 1776. ? I still have all my fingers and toes. ?

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On 6/30/2017 at 0:05 AM, MadsenFK said: So, I've been dealing with pretty bad anxiety and REALLY BAD self-hatred for like a 1 year now, which I've grown pretty tired about tbh. All this self-hatred started out as an inside joke between me and my close friends really, which eventually over a few months made me realise how many things there's actually wrong with me, in comparison to other people with like the perfect lives, looks and shit etc etc.

Let me give you guys some examples on what I think is wrong with me:

- Rock bottom self-esteem

- Anxiety

- No social life, besides school (most of my friends prefers to just chill over discord and play games, so It's pretty hard to plan something)

- Looks (not really face, more like from the neck down. Been trying to go to the gym, but I simply do not have enough motivation at the moment)

- Negativity

There's more I'm sure, but can't think about it right now.

Basically all the things above have fucked my sleeping, and fucked my school work.

So, if there's any experts on this sort of thing, then I could really need some advice, before I actually need to go to therapy and turn my life around for real.

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For the sleeping, you could try to reset your sleeping cycles. Like tiring yourself and train your brain to sleep at fixed hours with something like melatonin. Worked wonderfully for me.

As for the self esteem, the key is to ignore the rest of the world. Loads of people seem happier than they actually are. Same goes for people who seem like geniuses. Most aren't and give this illusion and the few who actually are, tend to be over critical about themselves anyway.

It's all about letting go off things if you ask me. Letting go of your image you think you have, the image of other you see, the fears etc.

Got another phone call due with Splash damage, this would be my third with them in a long and exhausting application.

Since I first applied, had a phone interview, test, face to face, a few phone calls and a lot of waiting over these four months or so.

As much as I want to be done my application and find out if I secured this job or not, it's still been a joy to talk with everyone there, talking with them the first time a couple months ago pretty much killed any anxiety I had when I first applied. Let's just hope I get this job so I can enjoying talking to them for much, much longer.

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On 7/7/2017 at 11:59 AM, Bastion said: Got another phone call due with Splash damage, this would be my third with them in a long and exhausting application.

Since I first applied, had a phone interview, test, face to face, a few phone calls and a lot of waiting over these four months or so.

As much as I want to be done my application and find out if I secured this job or not, it's still been a joy to talk with everyone there, talking with them the first time a couple months ago pretty much killed any anxiety I had when I first applied. Let's just hope I get this job so I can enjoying talking to them for much, much longer.

Good luck man. It sounds like a done deal to me. They wouldn't invest this much time in an applicant if they weren't serious about hiring him.

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On 07/07/2017 at 10:59 AM, Bastion said: Got another phone call due with Splash damage, this would be my third with them in a long and exhausting application.

Since I first applied, had a phone interview, test, face to face, a few phone calls and a lot of waiting over these four months or so.

As much as I want to be done my application and find out if I secured this job or not, it's still been a joy to talk with everyone there, talking with them the first time a couple months ago pretty much killed any anxiety I had when I first applied. Let's just hope I get this job so I can enjoying talking to them for much, much longer.

Call went well, no clue if I got the job yet though.

However I think I will take a day or two off from my level routine since I'm staring blankly into my monitor. Nice chance to clear my mind and collect myself a bit from some recent chaos and enjoy the summer.

Broke up with my girlfriend while in the middle of trying to buy a house and keep my head above the water with work at the same time. Fuck me it's either all or nothing.

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7 minutes ago, dux said: Fuck me it's either all or nothing.

Fuck, sorry to hear that bro. Remember usually this shit is a pendulum and it will swing back, but I agree that when the shit starts going wrong, it's usually a wave of turds our way, I've been noticing this pattern for a while, life has many ways of testing a persons will. Either by happening nothing at all, or by having everything happen at once.

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54 minutes ago, dux said: Broke up with my girlfriend while in the middle of trying to buy a house and keep my head above the water with work at the same time. Fuck me it's either all or nothing.

I know it's overused which has made it kinda cliché, but Nietzsche wasn't lying when he wrote “What does not kill him makes him stronger.” Doesn't make it feel any less shitty though.

And yeah @[HP], when it rains, it fucking pours.

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1 hour ago, dux said: Broke up with my girlfriend while in the middle of trying to buy a house and keep my head above the water with work at the same time. Fuck me it's either all or nothing.

Ah crap man. Really sorry to hear it man

Sorry to hear that @dux. Nothing to add to what the others said. Any chance is just a overblown fight?

Stay strong.

Cheers guys. It wasn't even a fight @blackdog she just doesn't have the time to commit to a relationship and wanted to take a step back. I said ok if that's what you want. What else can ya do? can't force someone to be in a relationship. So just gotta buck up and get on with it best I can and buy my god damn house

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6 hours ago, dux said: Cheers guys. It wasn't even a fight @blackdog she just doesn't have the time to commit to a relationship and wanted to take a step back. I said ok if that's what you want. What else can ya do? can't force someone to be in a relationship. So just gotta buck up and get on with it best I can and buy my god damn house

Best attitude EU, keep on trucking bro

My best friend married yesterday. After all the ceremonies there was a private dinner with his inner circle. I did a speech there, which to my relieve, was very well liked. I talked with his mother for quite some time and it turned out to be a very interesting conversation. I hadn't spoken to her in a while. You know how these things go when everyone starts living on their own so you don't have to visit them at their parents house anymore. She told me that back in the day she was very worried about her son hanging out with me. She knew I lived on my own when I was 15. She saw the wreckage that was my house when she dropped him off and of course she heard the stories about drugs and crime. She seriously considered not allowing this friendship to continue. I never knew that.

But then she took the conversation in a direction I wasn't expecting and made me aware of something I never realized. She said that she was glad that she didn't interfere, that she quickly saw how loyal I am and how very well behaved and respectful I can be despite being involved with the 'bad' things. The real kicker came at the end though. She told me she was so proud of me. That despite being left alone at such a young age, with no guidance and basically growing up on the streets, I managed to sort everything out. She complimented me on my beautiful wife and child, my job and just really said that's she truly amazed at how far I've managed to come from nothing. That I really went the distance and won. Now that my friends, melted this frozen heart of mine.

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1 hour ago, Sprony said: My best friend married yesterday. After all the ceremonies there was a private dinner with his inner circle. I did a speech there, which to my relieve, was very well liked. I talked with his mother for quite some time and it turned out to be a very interesting conversation. I hadn't spoken to her in a while. You know how these things go when everyone starts living on their own so you don't have to visit them at their parents house anymore. She told me that back in the day she was very worried about her son hanging out with me. She knew I lived on my own when I was 15. She saw the wreckage that was my house when she dropped him off and of course she heard the stories about drugs and crime. She seriously considered not allowing this friendship to continue. I never knew that.

But then she took the conversation in a direction I wasn't expecting and made me aware of something I never realized. She said that she was glad that she didn't interfere, that she quickly saw how loyal I am and how very well behaved and respectful I can be despite being involved with the 'bad' things. The real kicker came at the end though. She told me she was so proud of me. That despite being left alone at such a young age, with no guidance and basically growing up on the streets, I managed to sort everything out. She complimented me on my beautiful wife and child, my job and just really said that's she truly amazed at how far I've managed to come from nothing. That I really went the distance and won. Now that my friends, melted this frozen heart of mine.

Wow!

You need to write a book about your life, dude.

Welp, my Phone finally gave up and bricked itself after just over 3 years of use, was a old model, galaxy S2 but I liked it. Suppose it's time to actually buy a new one.

Good thing the job phone calls are done with, best let them know however.

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On 14/07/2017 at 0:47 PM, dux said: Cheers guys. It wasn't even a fight @blackdog she just doesn't have the time to commit to a relationship

Thought it might be the case since you are buying a house, but wanted to be hopeful. Seems like staying the course is the best thing. You already have eyes on some property?

Yeah half way through the purchase process. Her breakup has made things a lot more difficult to focus on though unfortunately.

channel your anger through assembling Ikea furniture

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On 7/15/2017 at 7:43 AM, Sprony said: But then she took the conversation in a direction I wasn't expecting and made me aware of something I never realized. She said that she was glad that she didn't interfere, that she quickly saw how loyal I am and how very well behaved and respectful I can be despite being involved with the 'bad' things. The real kicker came at the end though. She told me she was so proud of me. That despite being left alone at such a young age, with no guidance and basically growing up on the streets, I managed to sort everything out. She complimented me on my beautiful wife and child, my job and just really said that's she truly amazed at how far I've managed to come from nothing. That I really went the distance and won. Now that my friends, melted this frozen heart of mine.

I can imagine how it felt. My granmother told me something similiar, that she could not understand how i got to be "a good kid" when i had such a shitty past with my parents. It felt (for me) like a push to keep doing what i am doing Keep going strong Sprony.