What's going on with your life?

Just relax it's probably nothing. Nothing good comes out of analyzing these things. Who knows, maybe he found out on his own or he inquired. You can't be certain what's happened so don't go about assuming things. It's these kinds of things that destroy any relationship between persons.

errrm I'd say when your buddy has been "disastrously in love" with the girl for 3 years (even though she doesn't feel the same way apparently?) and expects that you stay away from her (while he has gone to the US for a year or longer) then she doesn't seem to me like the most unreasonable person in this story. Of course you could have lived without the drama but I think your buddy has some issues and needs to see some American girls ASAP. Or am I just misunderstanding and they used to be together?

As far as the girl is concerned: hard to tell what's going in her head with the info available. Maybe HE initiated the Skype conversation? Maybe she wants to make him jealous? Could be a warning sign or maybe it's nothing and you'll alienate her, just because your bro was acting selfish. Like Sentura said, the more you try to analyze these things and show to her that this troubles you, the less you have to gain from it. So just relax! It's summer, you'll have some days off and a girl is coming to visit you. Things could be worse

I thought I'd clean my bookmarks and there in some dusty corner I found the way to good ol Mapcore. How y'all doing guys? *waves

~Mike

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Yes, because this morning I got woken up by the pinging sound of facebook messages of his, telling me he got "a bit upset" and he wishes I told him (whether I was going to ask her out or going out with her is unclear) because of the aforementioned

And what do you know, apparently the aforementioned guy is very fond of her too his problem, but still.

your colleague is a possessive douche bag, man. don't be this easily cockblocked bro.

Soundcloud is loading like a slow-ass donkey once again.

I guess my uploaded .pngs crashed their site? Oh well.

My life's pretty structured-chaotic atm, switching study subjects this summer, still got a bit of paperwork to do, so I don't land in a financial bankrupt. I love bureaucracy!

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Just relax it's probably nothing. Nothing good comes out of analyzing these things. Who knows, maybe he found out on his own or he inquired. You can't be certain what's happened so don't go about assuming things. It's these kinds of things that destroy any relationship between persons.

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your colleague is a possessive douche bag, man. don't be this easily cockblocked bro.

+1!

Thanks for the pointers guys, you are all right and consciously I completely agree... but still even if i'm calm now, I can't shake the image of an owl with the duche face overlooking at me when I'm gonna be with her.

I can't help it for now. It's gonna pass, sure... but in time for when I see her?

Then yeah, I have to trust her when she tells me she got confronted by him and out of the blue accused to "hide stuff from him" -- like if it's his business anyway.

I would like so much to know how he got to the conclusion though. Other than some fairly wild guess based on fb stalking, I can think only of a scheme worthy of a teen drama show, as I told only to one person here with no direct interest in having us split that I was going out with Nicola.

And as a formality I still have the problem of replying to him, I'm not sure what to tell him. There's nothing to apologise for, it's not his business, it's not fair to vomit your feelings to trigger some guilt-reaction; but above all: you don't address a girl the way he did

So don't reply. He's not entitled to know.

Fuck that guy right in the pussy.

Oohh that sounds complicated blackdog, i don't like complication, sorry about that. But like frie said, you don't know if she wants him to get jealous, or if he is acting on his own, what is sure is that you don't have to feel guilty at all. Reminds me of the ethernal husband of dostoïevski for some reason, read it, it's not too big .

Also if he is in the US for one year, and you are sure he is not the kind of guy taking a plane to come gunning you down, well you have one year easy !

No things are simple: she likes me, not him.

He wants to act as the protective friend I guess, in his message he tells me "She will never go out with me and I need to get over that. She is the single most important person to me in the country.", so I should "be sensitive"; then he wished good luck… whattaffack, sounds like if I'm not in for marrying her I shouldn't be with her.

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No things are simple: she likes me, not him.

That's what matters, the rest is just noise

Well I guess he wants you to play a rivalry game with him in which I think you should be very careful to not be dragged in. And you are 100% right to not care. That's just my 2 cents.

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Well I guess he wants you to play a rivalry game with him in which I think you should be very careful to not be dragged in. And you are 100% right to not care. That's just my 2 cents.

Unfortunately that seems the case: i replied to him as Nicola encouraged, to not make him feel I totally ignored him, hoping it will end there... but he texted back and already from the notification seems he wants to enter a "territorial" type of discussion.

This is really the kind of distraction you need when you have to meet a deadline

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Unfortunately that seems the case: i replied to him as Nicola encouraged, to not make him feel I totally ignored him, hoping it will end there... but he texted back and already from the notification seems he wants to enter a "territorial" type of discussion.

This is really the kind of distraction you need when you have to meet a deadline

I'm sorry, I really am but I just don't get it. Honestly, why do you worry so much? Why do you let him get to you? Maybe I just witnessed too much bullshit from people to remain friendly in these situations. But seriously, I would confront him and tell him something like:

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Listen, you had a 3 year window. I can't help it you didn't have to balls to act. It's also not my fault that you let yourself be friend zoned. By now it should be pretty clear she's not interested in you. I admire you friend zone dedication by trying to be all territorial and stuff but guess what? She's not your property nor did she ask you too. You are acting like a jealous prick and I don't like it. Plus, I'm not accountable to you. Assuming so is rather arrogant and self centered. It's been 3 years bro. Get over yourself and move the fuck on because this is pathetic. I'm not looking for trouble but if you keep going on about this I can guarantee you'll find some soon enough.

Well I just broke up with my girlfriend.. We haven't been together for longer than a year, and we knew that if I got into the school in Canada starting in January that we wouldn't be doing the long distance thing anyway.

So right now, I'm currently finishing the school application and hoping that I get accepted. If not, then I have no plan, no money, no job and nobody to have sex with. Now that's a situation I'd rather not be in.

blackdog: Females suddenly get attracted to males when they realize that the males are moving towards a relationship with someone else. Happens every fucking time. And ignore your friend, he sounds like someone who thinks calling "dibs" after someone had their go works, it doesn't.

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I have no plan, no money, no job and nobody to have sex with. Now that's a situation I'd rather not be in.

If you don't mind to do some BJ, I could give a job, you'll have sex and money, that's a good plan, no ?

Sucks st0lve, but I don't understand... if it's starting in Jan why breaking up now?

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Thanks for the advices guys, seems like my drama it's over.

I feel a bit bad because I was writing an articulated reply to the guy, then my girl-friend here suggested something a bit harsh but brief. That lead to a quick exchange and he's saying it's cool.

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I'm sorry, I really am but I just don't get it. Honestly, why do you worry so much? Why do you let him get to you?

I guess because I've always been unlucky and had more than one unrequited love. I also feel pressure on my own for having her, don't need someone else's. And finally, before this, he has been a good company.But definitely I'm not feeling guilty of anything.

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blackdog: Females suddenly get attracted to males when they realize that the males are moving towards a relationship with someone else.

Yeah I heard, think it might be pheromones? Cos she doesn't know I am seeing someone, unless my girl-friend spilled the beans, which doesn't appear to be so.

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I guess because I've always been unlucky and had more than one unrequited love. I also feel pressure on my own for having her, don't need someone else's. And finally, before this, he has been a good company.But definitely I'm not feeling guilty of anything.

This is not good bro. Not good at all. Let's finish our pm conversation because you are really selling yourself short here. You are better then you think you are. Remember that

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