What's going on with your life?

Last night I tried something new: went to a ceilidh (Kay-lee - Scottish traditional dances) event in Camden Town.

Loads of fun!

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relying on an old cheap car

I dont know why, but I always thought you guys were like rockstars.

Youre crushing my made up fantasy world, stahp.

Thats actually not how I imagined to begin contribute to this thread since its mostly about really personal stuff.

I might add some stuff about me sometime.^^

Bloody slacker clem.

Hehe, yeah I believe Frieder is right, it's just a lot of stress from many different sources at the moment, I'm sure it'll be better later. I'm not depressed or anything, it's just tough to go through trying to do everything and do it right.

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I've been on the look out for Saturn stuff ever since my Genesis collection is nearing it's completion. I found this online which is a great catch. When I went to collect it a 73 year old man opened the door. He had a little trouble letting it go. He told me it belonged to his son who passed away in a car accident. I thought he was going to cry right there. I asked him if he was sure about the deal and after telling him I'm a avid collector he was assured that it would get a good home.

Afterwards he showed me his own SNES collection. Apparently, he and his son used to play together and he never stopped. He loves RPG's. He had an entire shelf with limited edition SNES RPG's that I've seen go on Ebay for hundreds of dollars. He even has the Castlevenia limited edition of Symphony of the Night. We talked about games and I left him with some good advice on the value of his stuff. A 73 year old man talking games with a 30 year old. That's what I love about being an gamer. Age, race, gender, sexual preference, religion, etc doesn't matter. We're all connected through our love for games.

That's a good story man! I actually just bought a Genesis for $15 plus shipping too. This collecting old consoles business is addictive.

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Go play with him Sprony (and your son!) on Saturday afternoons

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I've moved into my new house, the commute times are even longer than before but I found a train station not too far from my place so I rely on my car for only a little bit each day, which is better. I'm always stressed on relying on an old cheap car for my daily commute because I just never know when it's going to break down and prevent me from going to work.

I booked a 1-year parental leave because that's a thing in Germany, looking forward to that, as my wife got pregnant just as my last crunch was finishing and I feel like I never had a chance to recover due to her moods and my child and commute and exhausting holidays back to France to see family.

There's quite a few things to do around the house to make it good, and the incoming birth of my second child puts a lot of pressure on getting at least the kitchen, living room and one bedroom done as soon as possible to greet the baby in a clean/safe environment, so I'm rushing through those tasks as fast as I can. Had to put my indie project aside for a few weeks because of that, I hope to get back to it for good during my parental leave. Also the train I take in the morning and evenings now is long but nice and has electrical plugs in it so I'll probably be able to use my commute time to do some coding, so that's a positive thing I guess. I find being in charge of my own project creatively reminds me why I wanted to make games in the first place. After 10 years of modding, going back to an independent project feels just right, even with the limited time and energy I have to pour into it.

Not sure yet if buying a house right now (that house in particular) is a good thing or just not a bad one. I don't expect to stay in it for too many years because of its distance to some of the schools we want to put our children in, as I don't want to spend hundreds of euros a month in gas for driving them to and from school. Hopefully I can sell it back quickly and for a added value after I repaired the shit out of it, but I'm avoiding major structural changes to it because the prices can go up real fast if you have to call on a professional to do it.

Only the future will tell, at least I'll have learned a lot of very valuable lessons I'll be able to apply to my next purchase and renovations. I'm still always surprised how life can go so fast and so slow at the same time, especially after having kids. I sometimes, for instance after reading Furyo's interview, regret having had a kid so early and thus not being flexible and free to move/travel to seek better opportunities, not being able to save up money, etc. It doesn't really help to think like that, but when I see other people moving around the world and having fun joining cool projects and companies, able to have hobbies that are time-consuming and expensive, or able to do side projects properly while having a full-time job, I can't help but question my past actions that led me to this situation. Not sure I was made to be a family guy, I just happened to fall into it and now I feel a bit trapped. That'll pass I guess.

That's me!

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I wish you the best of lucks man! We've known each other for like what, 15 years now? And you're one of the best guys I've ever had the pleasure of meeting.

Regardless of what happen, remember that we cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand. Life is full of intricacies for sure, and I'm sure I don't need to tell you this but whatever you do, never loose sight of the shit that you love doing, and the shit that you still wan't to do.

Even if you only have 30 minutes a day, those 30 minutes will give you enough satisfaction to go through another day, it's a marathon, remember that.

I've seen too many people getting lost in midst of how busy their life's are, their affairs and their obligations. Almost like they fell asleep along the way, and they need some sort of awakening to bring them back on track.

That said, I like to think that what imprisons us, also points to our freedom -- the situation you're in right now, might actually allow you to see with a lot more clarity what kind of goals you want to achieve in the future, and man also remember that it's not the destination that counts, but the journey. You got two fucking kids now, even tho I can believe that might be a lot of work, I can only imagine the joy it must be to be a father, to pass that torch!

Best of lucks man, and send my regards to Silvia and little Jazz! (From Lili too)

Cheers bro!

Just thought I'd check in and say that I have had an amazing several weeks. Everything just suddenly improved for no reason and I've been feeling pretty good. I hope it lasts for a bit

The cherry on the cake was finding out that my dumbass ex is incredibly unhappy

/EDIT - just to clarify I'm not a hateful person or anything, just nice to see karma at work.

lol...

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Just thought I'd check in and say that I have had an amazing several weeks. Everything just suddenly improved for no reason and I've been feeling pretty good. I hope it lasts for a bit

The cherry on the cake was finding out that my dumbass ex is incredibly unhappy

That's good news bro! But you shouldn't feel better because others are miserable (karma). I understand where you are coming from though. My ex, who I lived with for 5 years, started dating one of my ex friends about a month after we broke up. They got married, they got a child and so on. I figured they deserve each other. But then my father (I live in a different city now) who has business with my ex friend, told me a little story. He told me that the guy kept complaining how lazy she was, how she didn't want to work and why he had to work so much on the side (my father sells old timers, the guy is a mechanic) to support her needs (as in party hard and do nothing). Which was one of the main reasons why we broke up.

Now here comes the cherry on top. She wants to divorce him because he's never there (uh fucking doh, he's working his ass off to support you). She went behind his back and already arranged a different house for her and their child. His heart is broken, she's still the same bitch from back then but now she doesn't have money so he still gives it to her. Both are miserable. However sad this is, especially for the child involved, I simply couldn't stop smiling for about a week. This is not revenge. It's punishment!

Yeah I getcha. I don't revel in anyone's misfortunes or anything of the such, but I let myself saviour it just this once. She treated me like crap and thought she found another "amazing" guy after me, then rubbed it in my face and it bit her on the ass.

Not revenge, definitely punishment.

Damn Sprony that is actually pretty sad and so much common. This seems to be the best way to make your life completely miserable, for you and your children. I know a guy who got two childs, their mother left him, got the guard and now he doesn't even see them at all; as a matter of fact, he is so down he doesn't even want to work anymore because all of his salary would go into pensions for the kids mother. Which sucks very hard for his current girlfriend.

Another friend who found his ex head upside down on her bed who told him she didn't took her pill and she wanted a child from him. Although if he left her she wouldn't mind uprising her kid alone. Luckily for him she didn't got pregnant.

And i remember that woman on Paris subway telling her friends : " if i'm with him that's because i'm 35 and i need kids"

(not being misogynistic here, but be careful )

We definetely all do errors, and that sucks when a child is born out of them, but well what do you know, life needs to find its way, i'm also an accident. So that's all good Oli, now that you unfortunately have the experience, never allow yourself to let it happens again

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We definetely all do errors, and that sucks when a child is born out of them, but well what do you know, life needs to find its way, i'm also an accident. So that's all good Oli, now that you unfortunately have the experience, never allow yourself to let it happens again

Eh? Do you have a kid with your Ex, Oli?

Nah I don't thank god. Few close calls though...

I dodged a lot of bullets (that same ex secretly stopped taking the pill). Luckily for me, my sperm count is bad. If I would have had a child with her it would have been hell on earth. I know tons of stories like the ones you're telling Koko. It's messed up, especially since the children suffer.

No, luckily for me, I've found my soul mate and after years of trying I should become a dad any moment. We discussed these situations in great length and we're both on the same page. Whatever happens to us, we will not use our child as leverage or as a way to hurt one another. I know it's easy to say these things but I have no doubts about our commitment to this agreement.

Awesome Sprony, when's the due date? Congrats dude!

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Awesome Sprony, when's the due date? Congrats dude!

Exactly one week from now, the ninth of June

I'll update thread accordingly.

Ahhh bless the joys of desired children. I remember that one time i was in town, nervous and sweating, buying a clearblue test at the pharmacy.. my eyes lost in the void.. like standing next and looking into a bottomless pit.. errr.. good memories