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This is mapcore. Girlfriends are only allowed when they are imaginary or play in your guild. I should add that to the forum rules actually...

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Believing that having a girlfriend is some kind of exceptional state of being says more about your warped perception of life than it does about someone who is just making conversation.

Is that directed at me or Sentura?

Minos: Yeah sure, find a girlfriend.. like it's that easy.

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This is mapcore. Girlfriends are only allowed when they are imaginary or play in your guild. I should add that to the forum rules actually...

Ahahaha, QFT.

Here are some simple steps you can follow d3ads.

Either:

Get loads of money, then it'll come naturally, you dont need to do shit.

Or:

Step 1: If you cant get loads of money then you need to spend all you earn on looking good.

Looking good means looking like everyone else and owning cool stuff. In your case that means cutting your hear and getting a shave.

The stuff doesn't have to be expensive, some new cheap clothes and perfume will do fine. Try getting a car if you dont have one.

Step 2: Find a girl and woo her with your cool personality and cool stuff.

This is the hardest part, especially without money to throw around. And it's generally easier to find chicks outside of a bar than inside it if you dont look really handsome.

Or

Try internet dating. Worked for me

I dated the internet once. She broke my heart.

Learn how to dance. It works

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Learn how to dance. It works

i can attest to this!

Mapcore, a dating tips community

But seriously, number one rule is to get out there... anywhere... and don't create false expectations. If your social life involves no women, you need to make some changes. Go get dancing classes, go learn to play an instrument, get a little bit more social. You don't need to be mac daddy. Also don't make it about you, it's not finding someone for you, but letting someone find you.

It's more or less like this comment I read about compettitive starcraft: "most of the newbies play too defensively because they are simply afraid to lose. Once you aren't afraid of losing and go out there, you realize that it wasn't that much of a big deal and start improving, taking more chances and eventually getting a win or two."

Just take what you can learn from zerg rushes and apply it to dating.

Buy yourself a pair of Wayfarer glasses. They do wonders these days from what I see

Doing things like being outgoing and learning to dance gets you a certain type of woman that I've become tired of -- proactive attention whores.

I'm actively seeking a girl who smokes weed/cigarettes and is morally ambiguous. She also has to like the Simpsons.

Thank god for match.com

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It's more or less like this comment I read about compettitive starcraft: "most of the newbies play too defensively because they are simply afraid to lose. Once you aren't afraid of losing and go out there, you realize that it wasn't that much of a big deal and start improving, taking more chances and eventually getting a win or two."Just take what you can learn from zerg rushes and apply it to dating.

You should give seminars or write a book. "The arhurt dating strategy guide". Genius.

Haha. A dating guide based on game analogies would probably prove very popular.

But yes D3, you need to be in it to win it: if you don't proactively put yourself in situations with girls and then actually chase them you're very unlikely to get anywhere. I used to be very similar to you in that I was pretty much terrified of seriously approaching girls with dating in mind, but then I decided to start pushing myself to talk to them whenever I could and before long it became natural to the point where I could ask a girl out over a coffee shop counter and get the number — a far cry from months earlier when I'd duck away from even eye contact with them. It's just about breaking down that fear of rejection.

I'd seriously recommend you try Plenty of Fish. It's not only the biggest dating site in the UK (especially with 18 to 30-year-old girls) but it's also free. I know two people IRL who met their long-term partners through it, and I myself have been with a girl I met through it for five months now — and that was after meeting three other girls, all of whom I went from initially messaging to dating within about a week. OK so those first three didn't work out due to being way off personality-wise, but the point is I managed to meet four girls and find the perfect one (who happens to be hot and a hardcore gamer ) within weeks from the comfort of my sofa. All Nottingham girls too of course.

The taboo with regards to online dating has mostly faded — most people I know openly talk about it and/or have done it, mostly because nowadays people in their 20s find it difficult to find time to socialise and meet new people due to work, friends moving on in life and settling down, etc. Also most of the girls on there tend to be relatively serious about having an actual relationship and are willing to meet fairly quickly if you play your cards right — none of this online messaging for weeks/months bullshit. Just do it... tonight!! :cool:

Aye, I completely agree with Thrik.

The great thing about internet dating is that you are meeting girls that have the mindset of "I want to find a boyfriend here". You rarely, if ever, find girls with that mindset at bars.

I've also met my GF online. We've been together for 4 years now. The wonders of the internet generation~

Go for it D3 *___^

i just wanted to throw something into this whole girlfriend dating discussion that has arisen here:

when internet dating you may not only find girls that are looking for a relationship. there might be girls that look just for some affair as well. just because they are girls that doesn't mean, that they do not have needs. there might be girls that think they want a new relationship, because their last one broke down, but they are not "over him" yet. that was the case with my last "girlfriend". she was talking of her old boyfriend all the time and this lead me to write her off. though i must say i had very nice moments with her and i certainly have developed.

so the bottom line is:

you might not find the love of your life, but in any case you will make progress.

oh and in regard to that "girls in bars": well they might not be actually looking for relationships, but talking to them can be nice as well. just because a boy is talking to a girl that doesn't mean that they might make up together.

hessi signing off.

my god what have i started.

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but yeah, what skjalg said basically. i reckon in a decade we'll go completely away from the notion that you find girl/boyfriends at bars, and maybe even one night stands too. a friend of mine told me this recently: "why would you go pick up someone on a friday, when you're drunk? you don't get any real pleasure out of it, and chances are you won't remember what happened the next morning." i gotta say i think he's right.

Personally I'd do internet dating, but I prefer to get social with people, meet girls in real life through friends and yes also in bars. The idea that girls who go to bars only look for one night stands doesn't hold up in reality at least not where I live. I think it's a lot more exciting and conclusive this way, you quickly get an idea if there is mutual attraction or not. You don't have to send messages back and forth for days or weeks based upon a few photos and a profile description. I'm not saying you shouldn't try it, obviously it works for a lot of people, but chatting online will only get you this far. At some point you will have to meet the girl in real life and that quickly reveals if you can handle real life conversations, so to put it in the words of advice dog:

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Thanks for the tips, all the cliches and then some I'm not really bothered about being single (no really, I'm not just saying that) and just because I pointed out the "with the girlfriend" thing doesn't mean I'm jealous, most of my friends are all in relationships.. I'm happy for them and I'm happy to a degree. This year my mother died of cancer and so did my grandfather.. it's not something I've openly discussed on here because everyone has difficulties in life and I prefer to keep it to myself and get on with things. My grandmother also died of old age so it's been a "bit" of a depressing year. I had been working up until March and then was made redundant and mum was dianosed pretty much at the same time so I didn't rush to get back into work.

After Christmas I'll start to get things back on track again with the job.. and maybe I'll try internet dating then or before...

Anyway, this thread has gone a bit OT hasn't it? :neutral:

Fuck that, this is mapcore, we're in family here.

Sorry bout your folks man, I lost my grandfather a few months ago as well, more of a father actually.

And dude, there is good and bad things about being in a relationship. I'm living with my gf now, and It's... well... different! Sure comes with really good things, but you do miss some stuff you were able to do when you were single and alone!

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but yeah, what skjalg said basically. i reckon in a decade we'll go completely away from the notion that you find girl/boyfriends at bars, and maybe even one night stands too. a friend of mine told me this recently: "why would you go pick up someone on a friday, when you're drunk? you don't get any real pleasure out of it, and chances are you won't remember what happened the next morning." i gotta say i think he's right.

Let me assure you there is very real pleasure to be had picking someone up on a Friday when you're drunk. If you don't remember what you did that night then you do it again in the morning.

Both scenarios have their pros and cons. I wouldn't throw one out in favor of the other.

edit: sucks about your situation D3. hope everything works out.

D3 That's tragic, my thoughts and sympathies are with you.

Frie, I agree there's no equivalent to real-world girl experience — I only started looking at online dating after getting over my fears and such IRL, then just used the web as another way of meeting girls I could get serious about alongside night clubs, day-to-day life, etc. Turns out the web led to good results most quickly though (Albeit after misfires both online and IRL!).